I am meeting this girl tomorrow and we met only once on a party and we have been chatting for month on msn. She is gorgeous and i'm afraid i'll just freeze and then the dreaded silence will happen. Does anyone have any tips. My confidence is pretty low at the moment and i'm amazed that she likes me to be honest.I am quite nervous right about now.
Thanks to everyone who will respond
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ps sorry for asking twice,but i could not read the answers on the other question|||Today, I'm going to teach you 10 techniques you can use to project SUPREME CONFIDENCE while on a first date. (Remember: If you don't show confidence on a first date, you'll NEVER get a second date.)
1) Don't Ask, Lead
This one is VERY important. A lot of guys ask stupid things like "Would you like to go to this restaurant?", "Can I go to the bathroom", or even worse, "Can we do this again some other time?"
And they wonder why they never get a second date!
Listen, buddy. Confident men do NOT ask women for permission to do ANYTHING. They JUST do it. They don't ask for a kiss. They don't ask for a second date. They don't ask for ANYTHING.
So next time you go out on a date...please...JUST LEAD THE WAY. Instead of asking "Can we...", just say "let's..." and lead her by the arm.
But never, never, NEVER ask a woman ANYTHING. Remember, boys: If a woman doesn't like something, she will make sure you know.
2) Never Give a Direct "Yes".
This is a VERY good idea to stay in control while out on a date. If a woman asks you for something, don't just give it to her like all the other pussy guys out there. Make her WORK for it. (Remember, psychology tells us that we appreciate the things we have to WORK for MUCH more than the "freebies".)
For example...if she asks, "Can we go to Japanese?" Don't just say "yes." Say..."Maybe...", or be funny and tease her, "I don't know, only good girls get treated to Japanese. Are you a nice girl?"
Or if she asks, "Can we sit over there?", instead of just following her *** like most guys would, grow some spine and say, "No. I'd rather sit here. It's a much nicer view here."
The key is to start getting you to act like a MAN.
3) Don't let her "interview" you.
If you want a second date, then you better not let your woman "interview" you. Women love to interview men on a first date...so they can weed out all the losers. And guess what? That means if you screw up on just ONE question... you're a GONER. G-O-N-E-R. Goner.
And this is EXACTLY why you shouldn't let her interview you in the first place. Whenever she asks things like "So what do you do" or "How much do you make?", just give her a silly answer...like..."Why, are you one of those superficial women? How much do YOU make?"
Whatever she says, just TURN IT AROUND playfully.
4) Lift up Your Chest, Tuck Your Tummy In
Want to project confidence physically? Do what Sergeant Marius says in Bootcamp, "Chest up, tummy in, boys."
This will NATURALLY put you in a confident position.
Ever seen a marine walk? That's how I want you to walk. Chest up, tummy in, soldier!
5) End The Date Early
So the date has been going really well and there's a LOT of chemistry between you and your new love.
End it now.
I am serious. I want you to ALWAYS end the date early to keep the power in YOU. Make your date wonder why you have to go. Make her WANT to go with you again.
Most guys just drag a good date on and on until it becomes a bad date. Don't be one of them. Be a man and have the power and self-control to end it early.
6) Don't Let Her Challenge You
If you act like a wussy and back down whenever a woman challenges you, her attraction for you is going to drop faster than an apple dropping down from a tree. Most guys make the mistake of thinking they should never risk "offending" a woman by showing her their spines.
WRONG.
Never bow down to a woman you like. Don't suck up to her whenever she challenges you. Because if you do, she's going to lose respect for you as a potential boyfriend or lover.
So next time a woman challenges you, have some spine and stand up for yourself.
For example...
If a woman tries to challenge you or to seduce you by staring into your eyes, stare back. Don't look away until SHE does.
(The moment you look away and blush in shyness, she's going to lose respect for you as a man and find another man who's
stronger.)
7) Don't Talk About A Second Date
Never talk about a second date while you're still on the first date. Be a challenge - don't act like a eager beaver.
Remember my golden rule: Take it one date at a time.
8) Don't Tell Her You Like Her
Never, never, NEVER tell a woman you like her. Don't EVER try to "express your feelings for her". That is worse than ripping your own spine out and strangling yourself with it. I am not kidding. Once it's out in the open that you like her, half the game is over. SHE will have all the power, not you.
Girls love trying to figure out if a guy likes them or not.
It's part of the dating game. So don't take it away from them!
9) Let Her Think She's Not The Only One
If she asks you if you're seeing anybody else, don't freak out and say, "No. Just you." Be a MAN and be a CHALLANGE.
Say something like, "Well, I have a couple of possible prospects right now. We'll see who wins." Then flash her a smile.
10) Be In Control From The Beginning To The End
This is extremely im|||She is probably just as nervous as you. Try not to worry so much. (Easier said than done, I know) What do you want to know about her? Ask her about what she likes, dislikes, talk about a movie you saw but most of all listen to her. Let the conversation go it's own way. If she says something interesting, ask more about it. Maybe you can mention some of the funny things you've spoken about online in passing to make it more comfortable. She may be beautiful, but she is a person just like you, just as nervous on a first date. If the silence does hit, just look at her and smile and tell her you are a little nervous but having a great time.|||Avoid talking about your problems or dealings, or the day or music, be smart, let her do the talking by asking HER the questions, let her think/know that she is intriguing for you.
a good resource is talking about the first time you two met or got to know each other.
if she is not too sensitive about it, make fun of people around you, like the crazy lady behind you, or the waiter with the big *** pimple, blabla
good luck|||Read the news - look for human interest stuff - fall back on that if there is a lull in the conversation. Ask questions about her. Silence isn't all bad. Transition period. You can look around and talk about what you see. What interests you? What amuses you? Stay positive. Smile. She's going to be nervous too.
Good luck. If it's meant to be then it will be. If it's not then it won't. There isn't much you can do there. It's ok. You'll be fine.|||Dude, girls LOVE to talk....mostly about themselves. but when she starts don't just respond like, Uh huh, thats cool, awesome. those phrases only work for conversations with dudes. Show interest in what she talks about even if its boring as sh*t.
People watching isn't a bad idea either. when you can feel the silence coming or youve run out of things to talk about, talk about other people, girls also love to gossip and talk about other people|||Ask her about herself.........your whole job becomes to listen, nod, and ask clarifying questions when you don't understand something.
If you can't handle that, you don't deserve a date with her.
As you get to know her, she becomes a person, not a thing, (this is a goodness).
Luck|||Ask a lot, be interested in life style, relatives, preferences, etc.|||awkward silence is cute.
where you're both just looking at eachother to nervous because you like eachother a lot you don't even know what to say..
it's like awwwww!(:|||talk to her about anyting that comes into mind whether its dumb or not itll just break the shell next thing u know yall date is over haha
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